First of all let me just say that I think it is a little ridiculous to reject a first date. Go have fun! It's not like you have to marry the person. I figure if they've worked up enough courage and were brave enough to ask you out they should be able to do so. So as for ways to reject dates, there are different ways in which you could go about this. There is the method of avoidance, every time they ask you out have plans or make up plans to be busy; I wouldn't suggest this, however, it is an option. Another option is to say no and really nothing else. This would get you out of the date but it wouldn't really do much else. You could also say no and tell him why, basically that you're not interested. This I feel is the best method because it gives yourself more assurance that they will not try and ask you out again, thus it is also probably the hardest to do. There are also some more options which are too harsh for my personality to include in this post, I wouldn't want to encourage those methods.
60. Smores over your gas stove. Trust me, it works.
59. Sledding. If it’s summer, get a Little Tikes Trike or small tricycle and go down a hill on those.
58. Fishing.
57. Decorate t-shirts or Keds for each other. You can get them rather inexpensively at Big Lots. If you buy cheap pairs of Keds (shoes) you can decorate them with fabric markers. It’s great!
56. Make a video together. You can normally use a digital camera and make it from that.
55. Build a fort out of blankets and watch a movie in it.
54. Go DI hunting. $10 and a DI, what can you find?
53. Go to a dance: Girls do the guys hair and guys do the girls make-up. Some friends did this, it was actually really fun.
52. Shot gun shooting or laser tag or archery, or anything that involves a target.
51. Go fly a kite. No really.
50. Freshman Date! Go have dinner in the Cannon Center and then go hang out at Helaman Halls.
49. Go to one of the many free sporting events. Check out BYU.edu.
48. Go for a bike ride on the Provo River trail. (Plenty of people have bikes to use).
47. Temple Square date! Go watch the Joseph Smith movie, or on a tour of the Lion House (free), or check out one of the historic sites. There is SO much to do around Temple Square! Oh, and they have free van tours!
46. Serve at the Soup Kitchen, call ahead to volunteer. Or try Welfare Square.
Ya, I'm all about a happy family.
So one of my friends is a man magnet, and lets just say they aren't ever her type. Saying no sometimes doesn't work, it just makes them work harder. Some people wake up in the morning to get milk delivered at their door. At our apt her rejected admirers leave gifts. Movies, Candy, Jimmy Eat World Concert Tickets, you name it. Avoidance has been her back up because no just doesn't work sometimes.
ReplyDeleteMy experience has been that saying no and why usually works the best. Most people are smart and understand that no means no. However, like in the case of Jennifer's friend, some people just don't get it. My one experience that I have had with a person like this was super frustrating. I finally had to resort to being painfully blunt. "look, I don't want to go on a date, and I don't want you to ask me again, am I clear?" is pretty much how it went down. I felt so bad after, I hate being mean, but I felt that was the only way the situation would ever get resolved.
ReplyDeleteI totally agree with you. Good post! Also, as always, interesting, fun date ideas!
ReplyDeleteI always love seeing the date ideas. Also, a guy should be able to take being rejected. Like you said, I think every girl should give a guy at least one chance. Go for a first date. However, if they ask again and the girl said no, they should be able to get the hint and move on. I think if you're rejected earlier on, it's a lot easier than if you lead us on.
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